SORRY. TOO MANY BLOG POSTS I KNOW. But I’ve got jetlag and keep getting up WAY too early and nobody else is up to talk to and it’s not the right time to read a book…..so apologies……
So here I am on the other side of the world with very good friends of mine, loving spending time with them and with my children, wishing my other son could be here and sort of wishing that I had a partner too….but hey, you can’t have everything you want in life now can you. There is a bonus to being back in Melbourne without a husband but with my children. My daughter and I are sharing a room and it’s great….she’s such good company and it’s lovely to be able to spend some time with her. If I was still married, that obviously wouldn’t be happening and she’d probably be feeling like I used to around my parents – marginalised. So, Good and Bad for different reasons.
But I’m looking at the positives today and by looking back at what I’d written at the beginning of my divorce it is clear that over time some things become less painful as you begin to get used to your new, different life.
My blog is nearly three years old. I started it around Easter 2007. I thought I’d reprint my earlier Easter posts – just to show any of you out there going through a similar marriage breakdown that although it’s certainly not all roses, I have made a lot more progress than I’d like to think I have in many, many ways (and none in other’s but thats another story) :-
GOOD FRIDAY 2007
I am trying to keep busy. This is my latest “what to do with myself whilst the children go away with their father” project. If I don’t keep busy, I tend to feel sorry for myself. If I feel sorry for myself I tend to do stupid things because I hate being on my own.
Having to let go of the children, both physically and mentally was, and still is excruciatingly painful. Today, I am trying to stop thinking about how many Easter Eggs they will be eating without me and whether they will be doing an Easter egg hunt. They leave tonight. I am deviously planning to let them eat their easter eggs early (obviously children from broken families benefit by getting 25 times as many eggs as children from nuclear families). Half an hour before they go on a four hour car journey in their father’s car should do the trick. This will be in lieu of travel sickness pills and I may also accidentally on purpose forget to pack the sick bags.
Only joking. But I am seriously going to have to find myself some projects. I can’t bear the thought of them going somewhere without me.
GOOD FRIDAY 2008
“This is so not Good Friday. This is Bad Friday. I am so ill. I have the worst hangover in the history of hangovers and I have been sick twice. In addition my lovely ex-sister-in-law is coming over to take me to casualty because I think I may have broken my ankle. This, for any of you who have been following my blog, is not my fault. It is a genetic problem that I can do nothing about, that involves drinking pints of disgusting pub white wine, falling over at some point on my way home and waking up wondering what on earth happened. My father did just the same thing only months ago and my two brothers do it frequently.
I am never drinking again. I think I must have been Rohipnolled (is that a word yet?) because I have a very big blank in my memory. Texted friend who was with me: “u hav 2 call me I’m dying” and told her that if I had actually died nobody would know for four days because my children are away. “Lucky you” she said – “at least you can luxuriate in your misery – I have to go and get a dead hamster out of it’s cage that has been eaten down to the bone by the other one and then console my inconsolable daughter”.
Am off to hospital now. Back later for on-going saga of drunken night out.
I don’t appear to have written anything. This was about the time that my ex husband told me he was going out with Builder Bloke’s ex wife and everything went spectacularly wrong.
Although the same could be said for Good Friday 2008!!
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April 3, 2010Thank you for posting these……I suppose the bonus of my situation is that I very rarely don’t have the children. And was your ankle broken? I still haven’t plucked up the courage to ask anyone what I did at a party a month ago. If I can’t remember offending anyone I won’t have any qualms about facing them again!
So pleased you are having a lovely break. x
Family Affairs
April 3, 2010Ankle not broken…..just a v bad sprain. Nevertheless. Really bad. Not going to fall off the curb of life quite so badly again. I learnt a lesson that night. Lx
Anna
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Do you feel really tired later in the day or does it just wear off by going to the beach?
Family Affairs
April 3, 2010No, I feel REALLY tired at some point in the day and have to go and lie down secretly somewhere Lx
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