HAPPY NATIONAL SINGLE PARENT DAY
I think this is possibly just a US thing, but oh well, I’m stealing it on the other side of the pond to acknowledge all the single parents in the UK and all over the world, because there are rather a lot of us these days. This is mainly because I failed to do a Mother’s Day post and be thankful for all that I have.
March 21st is the day set aside to observe National Single Parent Day. President Ronald Reagan declared this day in 1984 as National Single Parent Day and it was created to honour and recognise the hard work, devotion and sacrifices of single parenting. He said “I, Ronald Reagan, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim March 21, 1984, as National Single Parent Day. I call on the people of the United States to recognise the contributions single parents are making, sometimes under great hardships, to the lives of their children, and I ask that they volunteer their help, privately or through community organisations, to single parents who seek it to meet their aspirations for their children.
HOW TO OBSERVE
I’m not really sure how to observe the day. I’m certainly not going to be getting any observation from my family on this day since they gave me plenty of love and attention on Mother’s Day and Father’s day is just around the corner, but we can still look out for friends and neighbours and make this day a special one for any single parents that you know.
Maybe just take them to the pub. Or take yourself and a few other single parents out and celebrate! Lot’s of single parents that I know love doing that (funnily enough) and feel a lot better afterwards:-
The thing is, having been a single parent for over 10 years now, I’m hoping that this is also a day to celebrate just another type of dysfunctional family – because most families are dysfunctional in some way shape or form, whatever shape they come. Sometimes, when I’m finding it hard to think about the sadness of another broken family, it helps to think about all the sadness you can find in intact families too. Yes, perhaps our hands are a little more full to capacity, juggling life, BUT with such full hands, think about how full your heart is too. Living with your children is a joy like no other – and I must remember that when I look for my red jumper, pick up the towels, put the lid on the toothpaste, wipe the mud off the floor, worry about where they are, pick up the pieces of their heartaches, speak to their teachers, their friends, their friends’ parents, drive them to college, go to work, cook them food, wash their clothes…and so on, you get the picture.
Is my mother also a single parent these days? I assume she is in that category now that my father has died, despite being in her 70’s. But you never stop parenting and she’s still offering her pearls of wisdom and looking hopefully at her middle aged children for signs of improvement.
Here she is, wondering where everyone has gone – looking rather small whilst celebrating Mother’s Day last weekend:-
So despite the hardships, hug your children close and be very happy you’ve got them. A lot of my friends and children’s friends have lost their mothers and my heart went out to them on Mother’s Day. Maybe we should just bung everything in to “Others Day” and be done with it?